Monday, March 28, 2016


February 14th, the day for lovers, was celebrated differently in Nigeria. Streets, hotels, stores, restaurants were covered in red, pink and white streamers, with big heart shaped signs wishing passer by,s a Happy Valentine’s Day. Fancy and fast food restaurants were filled with couples eating out for the holiday.
A student of the University of Lagos shared her Valentine’s Day experience on how she lost her virginity she had kept for 21 years of her life.
“All my life, guys have never really liked me. Or should I say the guys I like don’t like me back while those I don’t care about are the ones who pay me attention. Last year, I met a man I had been chatting with on Facebook. He is married, but because I write poetry, he became one of my ardent fans. He sent me a friend request on Facebook and I accepted, and from there we began chatting.
His wife is in London, but he is here on contract to one of the telecommunication companies so he didn’t come with his family.
When we met at ocean basket in VI last year, I couldn’t believe how handsome he was. He is fair, tall and every ladies’ dream. I will not deny that I had crush on him. A day before Valentine’s, he invited me to his house in Adeniyi Jones in Ikeja for valentines, I accepted and went because I didn’t have any plans for that Sunday.
I went to his house Feb 14, 2016 towards the evening after church service. I got to his house without stress because he lives in a very popular vicinity. He gave me a very warm welcome, helped me with my bag from the gate to the living room.

We got in and were having a good conversation full of side jokes. We laughed and talked for a while till he offered me food and drinks. He went to the kitchen, dished two plates of rice for both of us and he brought a bottle of wine along which he served.
He was such a gentleman; little did I know he had planned the entire visit. He didn’t even allow me pack the plates or do the dishes after our meal together. We began gist again and this time it was on a programme showing on Tv as at that moment.
I started getting dizzy and everywhere was beginning to look blurry. I decided to lay my head a little but was uncomfortable to sleep in a married man’s house so I asked him to take me home. He agreed but I was too weak to stand up, so he carried me and I passed out.
Hours later my phone was ringing and I woke up, still feeling a little dizzy but I could move and had a little strength. I looked at my phone and it was my mum calling. That was when I realized I wasn’t home. I woke up in a strange bedroom with no idea where I was. Almost immediately, a man walked in. It was Mr. Frank, I became very furious and stood up with alacrity. Standing up made me realize I was soaked in blood and I was on my underwear.
I screamed and that was when I realized I had been deflowered. There was no one to hear my scream and Mr. Frank fell on his kneels and began pleading with me, saying the devil came over him and all sorts of lies and explanation.
My virginity, my pride was stripped away from me forcefully and unknowingly. I wanted to keep it till marriage for the husband God will provide for me. Now I am a part of the girls I tag as sluts, I am a hypocrite.
I am not telling this story for people to insult me, as it is I have received enough insults from the few friends I told about my painful experience. I am trying to make girls learn from my mistake. Don’t fall prey to the gimmicks of men in the name of Valentine or any other celebration.
I hope I forgive myself some day!”


  1. Tank God u av realiz ur mistake,and u learn a lot from it.So sad

  2. Are you a child ni??? Shey you haven't heard of people that got killed by Facebook friends they met up with? You're not even serious sef. It's your fault.

  3. Eyah... Don't visit a strange man next time


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