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Friday, April 15, 2016

I Feel A Storm Is About To Blow Up In My Home




I got married October 2015, but before then my husband and I had an issue regarding his mom wanting one or two of his nephews leaving with her to come and live with us once married. I made it clear to him that I also have a younger sister whom I can bring to live with us but because I want to concentrate on our marriage the first few years I don't want.

...anyone leaving with us till we are settled financially and otherwise(cos money is kind of an issue for us. We are ok financially but unplanned expenditure puts us in jeopardy). My MIL sent the boys back to their parents before the wedding so the issue died. Now, his elder brother's wife, is pregnant with their 7th child(I.e, the mother of the two boys). The brother earns just a little above minimum wage. The wife wants to go back to the village so as to farm and sort for other means of providing for herself, the unborn child and few of the children she'll take with her. All this has been going on for some time and suggestions has been made for the woman and all the kids to move in with our...

...father-in- law in the village. There's a school there and the children can attend school at an affordable rate pending when things get better with the husband. Now the issue is that, the last time my hubby and I went to see his mom, she discussed with him at length in their language since am from a different tribe and don't understand their language....
...when we got home I asked my hubby what the discussion was all about seeing it was heated. My hubby then told me that the elder brother wants four of the children to come and live with the mom and the mom wants at least two to come live with us. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment and am 6 months pregnant. We try to live within our means. Should these boys come...


...their feeding, clothing, schooling will all be on us. I work but still. What will happen when I put to bed? My mother-in-law and I have a cordial relationship and have never had any problems. But I have a feeling that this time around all won't go down well. As it is, it's my hubby that fends for the mom, sometimes even when we don't have enough at home he prefers...
...to give her his last. He's very attached to his mom. More of a mummy's boy. He rather starve me and meet his mums needs so most times am left to fend for myself. He hardly gives me money for food. He wasn't like this before we got married and am wondering what's happening. I can feel a storm coming...

...What do I do? How do I handle this without looking and sounding like a wicked woman. I don't want to tell them how we've been managing since we got married cos my hubby's family see him as a king. Pls help I need your advice.



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