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Saturday, April 30, 2016

Please can,t My Brother In-law wash his plate




My fiance and i just had our intro and are getting married soon. All through our relationship years, i've never for once seen him get angry the way he did last night over a minor issue. His younger brother stays with him. I'm the type that likes my environment tidy at all time especially the kitchen but each time i go over, both the kitchen and the whole house is always a mess. I have...
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..complained severally about this but still no change. Same was the case when his younger sister was there too before she moved to school, infact hers is worse. They are fond of leaving their dirty plates in the kitchen after eating and I am of the view of doing the dishes after every meal. At first i didnt see any big deal in it, then later i noticed they actually leave them...
....without the intention of washing them later.  I have stopped by the house before to meet pot and plates soaked for only God knows how long and i had to clean them up. There was also a day the sister came over to the house with her friends, they cooked,  ate and left, i got home to clean up their mess. I complained to boo but he didnt say anything. I told the younger....
...brother to always wash his plates after eating, he
adhered for a short while and stopped.  Yesterday i got really pissed and told him to stop leaving his plates for me to wash again. He still left them  there until late night when my fiance came back. Boo saw him and asked what he was doing, he said i asked him to wash his plates. My fiance just dashed into the room....
....shouting telling me never to ask his brother to wash his plates again, that back home, the dishes is left for the youngest person and he will only do it at his convenience, it isnt in my place to tell him that and that if i have a problem with dirty plates in the kitchen,  i should throw them away or better still go and cook outside. Also that if i have any issues....
...with his siblings, i don't have the right to approach them, i should rather come to him first. He made so many other comments that left me shocked and dumb founded. I thought he just had a bad day at work and was just transferring aggression but things got worse this morning when i brought up the issue. He said if i want his brother to make cleaning the dishes as his duty....
...he will only do it once a day and at his convenience. I tried to make him understand that i dont like seeing dirty dishes in the kitchen and i prefer washing after every meal and his brother should do the same which is the same thing i would ask my younger ones to do too. He then said i have no right to make any rule in his house. I see his siblings as mine and...

...and i will treat them the way i treat my younger ones but with the way he is handling things, he is going to build a gap in my relationship with his siblings. We are starting a family soon and i wonder how it will work out if he keeps reacting this way when it comes to his...

...Please is it wrong for me to have asked my brother in-law to wash his platesPlease i need sincere response and advice from the house on how to handle this issue.

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