Monday, June 6, 2016

Relationship built on empty promises ..

My name is Ne... I'm having a serious problem in my relationship and I don't know what to do any more. I'm in love with a man whose life is complicated and I can say he loves me too. We have been dating for close to 2 years now and I have tolerated a lot of things from him, which I always see as love. He's staying with his baby mama and the baby and keep promising... that it's just for a while till the baby grows up. At times I cry coz of the things I pass through being in this type of relationship. I can't visit him at home we don't talk whenever he's at home. He hardly finds time for me. At a point I wanted to quit that I can't go on like that because it's only a matter of time before another baby comes.

Yet he keeps telling me nothing of such will happen coz they don't share intimacy which I doubt. Many things has happened but I keep enduring just because I love him and he's giving me hope. Sometimes I cry all night wishing I don't love him. Sometimes, I wish I could leave but my feelings are too strong. He's a very nice and caring guy.

He's been nothing but a rock & a father to me. He can never see me in need without providing it but just that one thing is standing in our way. He's not happy that he's living with the lady but he had to take the decision bcus of his baby that she needs her mother. One day he said something to me that made me realised that I might have been wasting my Time Hoping for what.

...will never be.
He said its not that he can't get married now but he made a vow to God that any woman that gives birth to his child must be his wife and he's scared of what will happen if he breaks the vow. If he's to get married it will be the mother of his daughter. I was sober but I hide my pains. I didn't show any sign that what he said broke my heart.

After that day I made up my mind to move on and try and be with another person and gradually get over my feelings for him. The very first time I tried doing that, he found out and he came to where I was, took me from there and beat me up and said is over between us. I'm losing my mind... I have cried my eyes out and I don't know what to do anymore because all my pleading... in vain coz he believes I have been doing it all along.
That I was so unfortunate that day and he will never believe it was just a one day off incident. Please I need your advice, what should I do? Pls I need an urgent reply because I can't just take it anymore.


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